When our son first started receiving services, I’ll be honest—I wasn’t always sure what to say or how to say it. I had questions, fears, and sometimes doubts. I wanted to trust the process, but I also didn’t want to sit quietly while something important was overlooked.
That’s when I realized something:
No one knows my child better than I do.
And if I didn’t speak up, who would?
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Learning to Lead the Conversation
As an educator, I had attended IEP meetings before—but being the parent at the table was completely different. It’s emotional. It’s personal. And it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by all the acronyms, reports, and professional opinions.
But over time, I learned to lean into my instincts.
I started to ask more questions.
I started to take notes.
I started to say, “This isn’t working for him—what else can we try?”
And people listened.
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The First Time I Spoke Up and It Mattered
I remember one meeting where a goal was being written that didn’t feel right. It didn’t reflect where our son really was, and it felt too broad.
I paused and said, “Can we make that more specific? Here’s what we’re seeing at home.”
It was simple—but powerful. The team rewrote the goal. They added in something we had shared. And just like that, I saw what advocacy looks like in real life.
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It’s Not About Being Pushy—It’s About Being Present
I didn’t walk into these meetings trying to fight. I walked in wanting to collaborate.
And once I found my voice, the tone changed.
• I asked for clearer communication.
• I followed up when something wasn’t clear.
• I started bringing ideas, not just questions.
We became a team—not just by title, but in practice.
Even now, years later, I walk into meetings not with fear, but with purpose. I know my role. And I show up ready to be heard.
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✅ 3 Ways to Advocate Confidently at Your Next IEP Meeting
1. Prepare Ahead of Time
• Bring recent updates, examples from home, or questions you want to ask.
• Write them down—you don’t need to remember everything on the spot.
2. Speak From Experience
• Share what you see, hear, and feel about your child’s progress (or struggles).
• You’re the expert on your child—don’t underestimate that.
3. Ask for Clarity
• If a goal, service, or term doesn’t make sense—ask for it to be explained.
• Don’t be afraid to pause and say, “Can you explain what that means for my child’s day?”
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💬 Have you had a moment where you found your voice as a parent? Share it below—I’d love to hear how you’re growing through the process, too.
