Recently, I was introduced to an upcoming book about autism and driving—and I promised to write a post sharing what I’ve learned along the way, because teaching our children independence includes knowing the road ahead.
Driving isn’t an automatic life milestone for all autistic individuals—but for many, it’s a step toward freedom, confidence, and autonomy. The key is understanding how to support that journey thoughtfully and safely.
What Families Are Saying
Parents and autistic individuals often share similar cautious optimism:
“Focus on the parts of driving that are easier—like keeping your hands on the wheel while practicing in park… then gradually move to empty lots.”
— Advice from a parent in r/AutisticPride
Expert Strategies & Resources
- Here are several trusted avenues to explore:
• Autism Speaks—Autism Drives course
A transition-focused online program for autistic youth and young adults—great for exploring whether driving is the right path and how to begin.
• State-by-State License Guide
Find your state’s DMV requirements, license ages, and programs tailored to autistic drivers. Includes info on insurance, notifications, and law enforcement alerts.
• Ohio State University’s Driver Rehab Program
Combines clinical assessments, on-road testing with a dual-control car, and strategies like “running commentary” and step-by-step simulation for learners with autism.
• CHOP Driving Resources
Highlights the importance of occupational therapy and creating IEP goals related to driving readiness.
• Drive Focus App
A simulation-based tool designed to improve reaction time, visual scanning, and focus—all critical skills behind the wheel.
Practical Tips That Make a Difference
Drawing from brain-based insight and real-world experience:
• Break skills into tiny steps (chair steering → quiet lot → quiet street) .
• Avoid sarcasm or idioms when teaching driving skills—keep language clear and literal
• Use consistent “running commentary” in early-stage learning to build observation skills.
• Simulate stressful scenarios (e.g., traffic stops) to practice emotional regulation and safe responses.
• Stay patient—delay milestone timelines if needed. Nerves and readiness matter more than dates.
Safety Resources for Law Enforcement Interactions
• Blue Envelope Program (New York and beyond): A pre-filled envelope in the glove compartment helps law enforcement identify neurodivergent drivers and adapt communication during traffic stops.
• Mock Traffic Stop Clinics: Programs like the one in Middletown, CT, give practice in a controlled, supportive environment—empowering autistic drivers to navigate stops calmly.
Suggested Readings & Advocacy
• Guide to Driving a Car for Autistic People — A book with practical how-tos and insight from someone on the autism spectrum.
• Driving with Autism Program — A video-rich educational series by self-advocate Andrew Arboe, which breaks down driving into manageable pieces.
• For continued advocacy and policy insight, explore Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN) — a leading organization run by and for autistic individuals.
Your Turn: What to Do Next
1. If your child shows interest in driving, start early with simulated or stationary practice.
2. Explore tools like Autism Drives or Drive Focus—even early exposure can build familiarity and reduce anxiety.
3. Include potential driving goals in your child’s transition plan or IEP if appropriate.
4. Introduce safety tools like the Blue Envelope to help make law enforcement encounters smoother.
5. And when the time comes, celebrate every milestone: practice in park, first parking session, first empty road drive.
Question for You:
Is driving something your child wants to explore? Or if they’re already learning, what’s helped you both feel safe and confident? Share your experience in the comments—your insight could be the guide another family needs.
